Despite sexual education programs that teach teens about birth control, condoms and/or abstinence, the sexual behavior of young people in the U.S continues to be risky and concerning.
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This change starts with a new sexual revolution for women. It starts with you.
1. Start talking about sex early. Answer your daughter’s questions honestly in an age appropriate way. The more this is a running dialogue and the less it’s isolated conversations, the more comfortable and successful you will be.This can be challenging, but wouldn’t you rather your daughter learn from you?
2. Emphasize that you trust your daughter to make good sexual decisions. Naturally you want to protect your child, but know that she may not hear you at all if you are trying to cram your views down her throat.
3. You don’t want to push too hard, but you also don’t be shy about sharing your opinions. Give good reasons for your expectations, not just, “because I say so.”
4. Understand the pressure she faces as a teen in our sexually saturated society. There is a stigma to virginity.
5. Teach her that knowledge and self worth are sexier than bare midriffs and cleavage.
6. Teach her that “protection” isn’t just about condoms or birth control pills. It includes protecting her heart. Girls need to hear that it’s normal to have emotions with sexual involvement, even though television or their friends may say it’s no big deal.
7. Remember the way the human brain works: it’s a lot easier to sell an idea that matters right now, rather than in some distant point in the future. Maybe having to drop out of school because of pregnancy doesn’t seem as a scary as getting dumped by a guy after having sex with him. Try to find out what’s most important to your daughter and start there.
8. If your daughter rebels against a recommendation you make, enlist someone else she loves to have this conversation with her, and/or seek professional help.
9. If your child has a history of making impulsive decisions, seek professional help to prevent impulsiveness in the sexual arena. Early intervention is critical. Even good communication and a good relationship with you may not be enough to help her.
10. Remember that you are the role model for your daughter’s confidence. Teens often learn from what we do, not what we say. Teach confidence by example.