The entire world has been touched by the effects of the COVID-19 pandemic in one way or another, but there’s no denying some people have been more hurt than others.
And you may be in this category. Maybe you lost a loved one or someone you know to this outbreak. Or, maybe you know someone who’s been exposed to the virus and tested positive. You may also constantly worry about friends and family members who are high at-risk, like the elderly or someone who is immunocompromised.
So you ask yourself: how can you keep yourself safe and protect your friends and family from contracting the virus and getting ill? Or worse, dying because of it? From official information, isolation seems to be the only way this is truly possible. This is why many government officials are recommending everyone stay indoors, and minimize social contact as much as possible.
This makes complete sense. But, it also means putting other aspects of your life on hold. Right now, you may be stuck at home, even unable to work if your job doesn’t allow remote work. You may feel strange at this time, lonely even, especially if 2020 was the year you wanted to find love, and finally, meet the one. What happens with this part of your life now?
Getting Ready for Love, Even from Home
You don’t see it now, but this isolation is an opportunity to finally be totally honest with yourself. Think of the reasons why you haven’t found love so far, and what was holding you back. Do you have a “habit” of meeting nice men, and yet always find some faults with them?
Or do you not notice the nice man who’d do anything for you because you’re too enchanted by the guy who’s not paying attention to you? The guy who maybe flirts with you every now and then, but does the same with other women too?
Or, think of why you’re currently in a relationship with a man that’s not right for you, who’s not giving anything back. Maybe there’s only physical chemistry, but no emotional connection. Maybe he’s still a nice guy, but you don’t see yourself building a life with him.
These are a lot of hard questions that a lot of women must ask themselves before they’re prepared to find love. Without this honest conversation with yourself, you’re unfortunately doomed to repeat the mistakes and miss your chances of meeting the one.
And maybe you don’t even know what your problem is. That’s okay, and it’s possible to read the questions above and not find yourself in any of them. But that makes it all the more important to speak openly to yourself and figure out why you’re single now.
Don’t be too worried about not finding definite answers. It’s perfectly OK not to find them on your own. Maybe you just need a bit of outside help to guide you.
Seize the Time at Home Now!
If right now you’re in isolation at home with nothing to do but worry about the pandemic, this next part can help you make sense of your love life a bit better. Sure, go ahead and organize your pantry again, but once you’re done, try to take this leap.
So, what can you do? Well, how about a quiz? This one here can help you determine if you’re being your own Brand of Sexy or not, and maybe even find out what you may be doing to sabotage your own dating efforts.
Or, you can take a deeper dive into your dating habits and learn more from my book, Be Your Own Brand of Sexy: A New Sexual Revolution for Women. Get a free excerpt here to see a bit of what the book is about. Or better yet, you might even take a bigger leap and really think about working with a professional coach or therapist. Self-reflection can only help so much at times; sometimes people just need a professional to guide them.
Taking Care of Yourself
It’s a lot easier to sit around and obsess about the pandemic – in fact, the media makes that extremely easy. Focusing on your love life, especially on the part about analyzing yourself to see why you haven’t found happiness yet, is in no way easy. So yes, when you are confronted with the two options, the former seems like a much more pleasant choice. But in the long run, it won’t help you.
By keeping the status quo in your love life, you’re basically kicking the can down the road. You’re avoiding the problem now, in hopes that later on, it might not seem that big or that difficult to tackle. But you have no way to know if that’s the case. In fact, it likely won’t be, and it’s a surefire way to ensure you delay finding love.
So instead of avoiding the problem, challenge yourself. Take advantage of this time at home and work towards the love life of your dreams. The outbreak will eventually go away, but your desire to meet the one won’t. So why not focus on those, instead?
What are the problems holding you back from moving forward? Have you noticed any easy next steps you can take soon? Tell us your story in the comments, as we’d love to hear about how you will begin your transformation!