Was it difficult for you to answer the quiz questions honestly? Were you embarrassed by some of the ways you currently handle those situations? Were you trying to figure out what the “right” answer was? Remember, the point of the quiz is to figure out what is right for you, not what’s right for somebody else. Every woman’s Brand of Sexy can look different. If you’re still not sure what your Brand of Sexy is, read the book for more analysis and discussion.
You’re a people-pleaser. Denying your own needs seems to come naturally. Maybe you’re afraid of losing a guy if you say “no” to something he wants when you’re not comfortable with his idea. Cultivate your intuition about what you want and where your boundaries are.
It’s hard to get what you want from a man if you aren’t sure how you feel. That’s why I included the chapter, Emotional Hygiene: Your Voice Matters, in my book, Be Your Own Brand of Sexy: A New Sexual Revolution for Women. You might be surprised to learn that Daisies are vulnerable to being swayed by other people, so you may also want to read Chapter 2: Media and Peer Pressure Solutions Might Not Be Right for You. Chapter 3: Know Where You’re Going, has at-home exercises to help you figure out what you want, so you can know what to do in different dating situations. And, there are more quiz questions with dating scenarios in Chapter 8: Script Your New Game.
Sometimes you have trouble expressing your feelings. Others think you’re angry, but you don’t recognize it. People might say your jokes about them aren’t so funny and hurt their feelings, but that seems strange to you. Rather than suppressing your feelings, use your emotions to help you make the decisions that are best for you.
You probably don’t want to sabotage yourself with a new man by hurting his feelings when you might be suppressing how you feel. It’s also hard to get what you want from a man if you aren’t sure how you feel. That’s why I included the chapter, Emotional Hygiene: Your Voice Matters, in my book, Be Your Own Brand of Sexy: A New Sexual Revolution for Women. Chapter 3: Know Where You’re Going, has at-home exercises to help you figure out what you want, so you can know what to do indifferent dating situations. And, there are more quiz questions with dating scenarios in Chapter 8: Script Your New Game.
You are good at understanding your emotions, but sometimes you tend to overreact. Your emotions can make it hard for you to stand up for yourself in a calm, tactful way. Perhaps your anger has sometimes made you sound more demanding than you’d like. Whenever you feel emotional, start by taking a breath. Don’t react right away.
You might push a new man away by getting overly emotional. Many men aren’t into a lot of drama in their lives, and you might not realize when you could be coming on a little too strong. Many women expect men to be able to handle the total intensity of their emotions, but that may be asking a lot. That’s why I included the Single Women’s 12-Piece Dating Toolbox in my book, Be Your Own Brand of Sexy: A New Sexual Revolution for Women, so you can learn more effective strategies to get what you want from men — strategies other than letting him have it.
You’re a firm believer in equality. Sometimes your view of being a strong and powerful woman might interfere with your instincts and intuition. You might be making decisions according to your idea of what it means to be a “modern woman.” Be clear about your boundaries with men.
I, too, am a feminist. But I worry when Violets let their feminist beliefs override their feelings about how they want to be treated. In fact, one of the main reasons I wrote my award-winning book, Be Your Own Brand of Sexy: A New Sexual Revolution for Women, was to address our cultural confusion about what it means to be strong, powerful women. Chapters 2 and 3 address this in greater depth. I believe this is one of the main reasons why my book has won 13 awards.
Being a modern woman works for you because you’re being your own Brand of Sexy. You are clear about your desire to be treated respectfully and able to express your needs calmly. You’re good at guarding your heart. Your good instincts and intuition make the dating journey an exciting adventure. Keep listening to your instincts.
Even Roses can benefit from the strategies I’ve learned as a psychiatrist working with hundreds of women sitting across from me in my cozy office. I included the Single Women’s 12-Piece Dating Toolbox in my book, Be Your Own Brand of Sexy: A New Sexual Revolution for Women, so you can learn ways to get what you want from men that you might not already know about.
You’ll also learn some of the finer points about changing your dating game, such as having more success with men by saying less (the cure for being too chatty), saying “no” to what you don’t want with grace and dignity, figuring out whether or not he’s a keeper, and handling rejection on and offline. I also share how to become a man magnet with a few key phrases, and how to keep from getting burned by a hot romance. It’s chock-full of tips on how to attract — and keep — the right man for you!
Even if you’re being your own Brand of Sexy, you could still be making some mistakes with men. To get my free report, 7 Common Mistakes Women Make With Men and What You Can Do About Them, click here.