Improving your love life can be tricky, and it mostly has to do with how we approach this process.
Let me ask you this:
What do you do if you’ve been through a rough patch and can’t seem to sort out your love life?
Most probably, you blame your lack of success on factors like appearance, confidence, or lack of options. It’s simpler to justify your disappointments like this, but it’s not very effective. Instead, you need to take a good, hard look at yourself and figure out what might be stopping you from making the kind of progress you want.
I get it: admitting your flaws and fears is not easy. But, if you want to stop going around in circles, making the same dating and relationship mistakes over and over again, then you need to take the harder way.
By working on yourself first, you’re more likely to make real progress when it comes to improving your love life. If you’re stuck, then you should try asking yourself these 10 questions to help you find a new perspective.
Dating Question 1: What’s the Secret to Getting What I Want from Men?
Besides knowing some dating basics, you need to work on improving your instincts and intuition. That will help you be able to say “yes” to what you want and “no” to what you don’t want in dating and relationship situations. Making good dating decisions is critical. After all, you don’t want to spend a lot of time dating men who can’t offer you the kind of relationship you want. You also have to be able to tell the difference between a man who is a keeper and one who is likely to break your heart.
Dating Question 2: How Can I Find a Good Relationship Without Confidence?
Plenty of people find relationships even though they lack confidence, and you can too. Lack of confidence is a universal feeling. Everyone deals with it at some point during their lives and that’s perfectly normal. It’s what makes us want to evolve and improve ourselves. You also need to understand that confidence varies depending on your skills and abilities. You can be very confident in some abilities and uncertain about others. That’s normal too. What matters is that you remain focused on improving your confidence by taking small steps toward your goals. Just be sure to give yourself credit for the steps you’re taking, even if they seem awfully small.
Dating Question 3: Am I Doing Anything to Sabotage My Success with Men?
It’s very easy to blame your dating troubles on your location or appearance, but that prevents you from taking a closer look at yourself to see if there are some problems that you can address to change your love life completely.
Dating Question 4: Do I Know How to Recognize and Appreciate a Good Man?
A lot of women are complaining that all the good men are taken, but that’s simply not true. The real problem is that they often can’t recognize or appreciate these men. Even if he’s not your Mr. Right, you need to be able to tell if the man in front of you is a solid man for a good relationship or if he’s a man who isn’t going to work out.
Dating Question 5: Am I the Kind of Person That the Man I Want Would Be Interested in? If Not, What Can I Do to Become More of a Match for Someone Like Him?
Be honest with yourself about your limitations rather than living in a fantasy world. If you lack qualities that your Mr. Right would want, then can you improve yourself enough to get him interested? Or do you need to recalibrate your expectations?
Dating Question 6: Am I Making Similar Mistakes with Men Again and Again?
Take a look at your history of dating and relationships with men. Do you seem to date men who aren’t emotionally available, are narcissistic, or can’t or won’t commit? You’re the common denominator, and you’re choosing to say “yes” to continue to see them rather than saying “no” to another date with him.
Dating Question 7: Am I Hanging on to a Dead-End Relationship?
So many women are still hung up on their ex, or some man who simply isn’t all that interested in them. If you are, maybe it’s time to figure out why you’re doing that. You can’t be emotionally available for a new man if you’re carrying a torch for someone else.
Dating Question 8: Why Do Men End Relationships with Me?
Answering this question can help you identify any problems you might have in holding on to a good relationship. Do men break up with you because you sulk around rather than tell them what’s bothering you? Are you drinking too much? Accept responsibility for your part in the breakup rather than just putting all the blame on him. You can’t prevent another breakup unless you acknowledge and address your problems.
Dating Question 9: Am I Afraid of Getting Too Close in a Relationship and Getting Hurt?
Many people are afraid of getting close to a partner. They’ve been hurt in the past and fear they might get hurt again. The problem is, they may not always be conscious of that fear. That’s why you must see what you might be doing that suggests you might be afraid. For example, if you’re pushing nice men away and dating men who won’t work out, then you might be afraid. Men who can’t commit might feel “safe” in some way since you can never get too close and get hurt.
Dating Question 10: What Can Be Holding Me Back from Love?
Close your eyes and envision meeting someone who meets your criteria. How do you feel? Do you hesitate at all? Be completely honest with yourself about any thoughts or feelings of concern.
Bottom Line? You want to address the issues that are getting in your way of a happy love life. This will make it faster, and you can start making some real progress.
Your next success step: Now you’re invited to take your next success step by visiting www.beyourownbrandofsexy.com/quiz and take my quiz to start learning about yourself and how you can make dating easier for you.