There’s all kinds of bad, contradictory advice out there about what to do when dating. How do you sort through it all? Start by recognizing that a huge part of the confusion around dating is due to the cultural pressures we face to look sexy and be sexual, telling us that dating is all about …
(an excerpt from the book Be Your Own Brand of Sexy: A New Sexual Revolution for Women) Let’s look at your instincts for a minute. There’s a big difference between animal instincts, the sexual feelings we might have for a guy, and our protective instincts—that little warning bell that goes off in your head that …
Many women believe that casual sex empowers them. They don’t want to be passive. They don’t like waiting for a man to make the first move. They want to take charge. But casual sex isn’t empowering for everyone. In fact, it doesn’t work for many women. In a culture that pressures you to be sexy …
The pressure to be sexy and sexual is sabotaging women’s confidence and our love lives. When you think you have to be the best sex object you can in order to get what you want, it’s like driving in a strange new city without your GPS—you’re probably going to get lost. The secret to getting …
Have you ever wondered whether a guy was into you? Did you later discover that you’d been gambling with your heart? Why is this pattern so familiar today? It’s not your fault. Our culture puts so much pressure on us to be sexy and sexual that many of us believe that’s the key to getting …
Are you truly free? With so many of us trying so hard to be sex objects, is that really sexual freedom? Maybe you’d like to believe that you’re free, but there are hidden forces at work that may be influencing you without your full knowledge. Since we all want to be “normal,” in many situations …
We all know that the pressure on women today to be sexy and sexual causes many problems. Have you considered that it’s likely to be hurting your love life too? Here are some examples of what happens when women let our cultural pressures guide them: – Using the latest trendy dating app, Megan says she’s …
A healthy sense of self-worth can help you in every area of your life from friendships to work and especially in your relationships. A confident woman believes that she deserves the best. She understands that someone else can’t make her happy—they can only enhance the happiness she already feels. Try to think of it like …
It may seem like harmless fun to have a few drinks on St. Patrick’s Day. Unfortunately, alcohol is a big factor in the incidence of date rape. Simply put, date rape is unwanted sex from a person you know. No one is “owed” sex, not even if they bought you a nice dinner. It also …
Negative self-talk. People-pleasing. Having trouble making decisions in your own best interest for fear of judgment or losing someone’s approval. These all can be signs of low-esteem, and they could be keeping you from living the life you want and deserve. If this sounds familiar, it could be time to develop your self-confidence. For the …
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