The most romantic day of the year is upon us: Valentine’s Day. It’s a moment many women dream about, a day where the man goes out of his way to show you how much they love and appreciate you. Honestly, they should have this concern every day of the year, but let’s not get too caught up in details yet.
But for those women who aren’t in a relationship that’s set in stone yet, Valentine’s Day is the perfect opportunity for you to discover where you stand with the man you’re dating or are interested in. It’s not lost on men that Valentine’s Day is important to women. They know this is a day where they must step up to the plate and show how much you mean to them.
He is also aware that, if you are dating other people as well, Valentine’s Day can be the day he loses you forever. If he doesn’t step up and gets outshined by any of your suitors, then it’s game over for him. What he does on this day essentially tells you everything you need to know about where you stand with him.
Decoding Your Relationship
It’s really important for any relationship to have a solid foundation based on open communication. But even if you feel like you can talk to your man about anything, you still may not completely know where you stand with him.
Now, you can take advantage of the most romantic day of the year, finally set the record straight, and see where you stand. All you need to do is follow these three steps:
- Pay Close Attention to How He’s Treating You
This is a perfect opportunity to find out if you’re number one in his life or not. If he’s not asking you out for Valentine’s date or on Saturday night, there’s a really high chance you’re not a priority to him. It may be because there’s another woman involved or he’s playing the field. Or, it may just be that he doesn’t value these kinds of things, in which case he doesn’t value you either, especially if you do care about going out on Valentine’s Day or having more romance in your life.
Think about how he treats you in general. Does he do anything to show that he cares about you, even like a small gift or some flowers? Is he giving you mixed signals, today showering you with flowers, then ignoring you the rest of the week? These confusing signals can be telling signs of commitment issues, so keep your eyes open for them.
- Be Honest with YOU
It’s time to stop making excuses for the men you’re dating. A lot of women will try to rationalize the red flags they spot in their partners because (a) they’re interested in them and want to make things work, and (b) they’re afraid to put themselves out there again.
So it’s easy to find justifications for bad behavior. He’s not taking you out on Valentine’s date because he doesn’t care about those things, but he’s really nice. He doesn’t ask you for dinner a lot because he works hard and is tired. He forgot your birthday because he was swamped with other things.
No. Pay close attention to how you’re reacting to relationship red flags and see if you’re trying to justify bad behavior. Usually it’s very important to find some ways to communicate to a man that you’re disappointed when he doesn’t treat you the way you want. But today you probably want a different kind of approach. You could tell him that you feel hurt that he didn’t take you out for Valentine’s Day, but do you want a relationship where you have to tell him something so basic? You know where you stand with him, and it’s a bad sign.
- Recognize Your Opportunities
When women are single, they can minimize their opportunities to meet men. You may not realize that by doing so you are also keeping yourself back from finding true love.
Then, when you ignore a lot of these opportunities, it’s easy to start feeling hopeless or desperate about ever meeting someone. Once you feel this way, you are vulnerable to making poor decisions in your love life, and go straight into an unhappy or unhealthy relationship. You can overlook red flags because at the end of the day you’re just happy to finally be in a relationship, even if it’s not right for you.
You need to be realistic about your dating opportunities, but don’t filter them so much until the pool has dried up. Think of the things that might help you meet Mr.Right, and take the plunge to put yourself out there.
It’s Okay to Be Single
You may discover that the man you’re dating now isn’t right for you. And that can be terrifying but remember you deserve a relationship in which you feel special and happy. The fear of loneliness can keep you stuck in an unhappy dating life, but don’t let it. You can waste a lot of time on a man who’s perfect on paper, but isn’t into you the way you want.
It’s much better to break it off now, be single, and get back in the game. It’s the only way you’ll find someone who truly knows how to value you, on Valentine’s Day and the rest of the year.
Can you tell if he’s into you whether it’s Valentine’s Day or any day? Leave us a comment below and let us know!