Signs It’s Time to End a Relationship or Consider Ending It


Breakups are miserable. Sometimes we’ll do anything to avoid the pain of losing our partner and the promise of that shared future. That can make it very hard to decide whether to continue a relationship. Should you hang in there and give your relationship a chance? Or should you end it rather than waste your precious time?

It’s perfectly normal to have some doubts or questions about the long-term potential of your relationship. But don’t ignore your feelings if your concerns are becoming more frequent. Here are some questions to help you to begin to decide whether ending a relationship is right for you.

1-  Are you making excuses for him?

When you’re disappointed, you might make excuses for him rather than face your feelings and what it means about your relationship.

  • He cancelled, but something important must have come up.
  • He can’t commit, but he had a bad breakup with his ex.
  • He shows up late for dates, but traffic is always bad.
  • He won’t meet my family, but we’ve only been dating for 6 months.

2-  Do you feel bad about yourself when he pressures you to change?

If he wants you to listen to him more, that’s a common relationship problem and usually something that can be resolved. But if he wants you to lose 20 pounds, change jobs, and wear clothes that he prefers, he’s having trouble accepting you as you are. Your partner may need to see a therapist for his problem. If you let his problem make you feel bad about yourself, you may need to see someone as well.

3-  Are your values similar enough? 

One of the best reasons to end a relationship is if your values are too different. If you believe in honesty and generosity and your partner doesn’t, you may not be a match. If one of you wants children and the other doesn’t, it simply may not work. Religious and spiritual differences can also be dealbreakers. Be honest with yourself about what’s important to you.

4-  Is your relationship a well-kept secret?

After months together, he avoids introducing you to his family and friends. When you bring it up, he changes the subject. Unfortunately, this situation can feel degrading. Ideally, you want your partner to feel proud of you and committed to your relationship. This relationship appears to be going nowhere fast.

5-  Can you have a real conversation with him? 

Different communication styles can create conflict in your relationship. If one of you likes to have long discussions about your feelings and the other prefers to avoid conflict at any cost, there might be too large a mismatch in your approach to communication, leaving you frustrated and unable to discuss your differences.

In healthy long-term relationships, the partners may not be able to resolve many of their differences and that can be OK. You and your partner are never going to want the same things all the time. Women are happiest in their relationships if their partner tries to understand how they feel, even if they aren’t completely successful. If your partner is critical, defensive, shut down, or treating you as if you were inferior, you might have serious relationship problems that would benefit from couples therapy, or you might want to consider ending the relationship.

6-  Are you the one keeping the relationship afloat? 

Sometimes a woman gets her heart set on a man who isn’t that into her. She might make excuses about why he isn’t keeping up his end of the relationship, hoping that he will come around eventually. This just makes it easier for the man to take her for granted, because she is training him to treat her badly by putting her needs and feelings on the back burner. It takes two to make a relationship work. If he isn’t showing up, it’s time for you to make it clear that you aren’t comfortable with the way your relationship is headed. If he cares about you, he’ll try to keep you. If not, it may be time for you to move on. It’s important for you to feel like a priority in his life. If he can’t do it, you can find someone else who will make you a priority.

7-  Do you feel hurt by his problems?

None of us are perfect, and we’re unlikely to find a partner who is. Making a relationship work is complicated with two imperfect partners. We all make hurtful or less than supportive comments sometimes. If your partner says something hurtful occasionally and expresses remorse, you’re likely to be forgiving.  But if you feel hurt, disrespected, underappreciated, and invalidated regularly and he rarely ever apologizes, that’s a big problem.

Some of a partner’s imperfections are harder to live with than others. If he’s cheating, has financial problems, drug or alcohol issues, or other mental health issues, he needs to get help. If he’s not willing to face the damage he’s done and get the help he needs to deal with his issues, it’s a good reason to end a relationship. If you have serious relationship problems like this, but you aren’t willing or ready to end your relationship, it’s time for you to consider consulting a therapist to deal with your situation.

Bottom Line

Remember, ending a relationship is never easy. However, recognizing when it’s time to part ways can lead to personal growth and the opportunity to find more fulfilling partnerships down the road. Ultimately, it’s about making choices that align with your well-being and happiness.

Making the decision to end a relationship is not a sign of failure; it’s a statement of self-respect and the acknowledgment of your own needs and happiness. It takes immense courage to face the unknown and step away from a relationship that no longer serves you.

Since the decision to end a relationship isn’t always straightforward, seeking the counsel of a therapist or relationship expert can provide valuable insights. Professional guidance can help you explore your feelings, needs, and options in a safe and supportive environment.

Have you ever wondered if it was time to end your relationship? What helped you to make your decision? Leave us your comments and questions below.

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