If you were honest with yourself right now, does your love life look a bit stagnant, or even missing in action? Are you approaching your romantic life a little too passively? I’m not talking about your desire to meet someone, but the actual actions you take to fulfill them. Are you perhaps just hoping to meet someone, but don’t have a real plan on how to achieve this?
Unfortunately, this is a very common situation which often leads to… not much. You could be stuck in situations and dates that seem all too familiar, and that doesn’t give you the hope that you can move your love life further.
When this happens, you may need to change your approach and revamp your dating life. Even if you’ve hoped 2022 would be different for you, don’t fret. It’s only March, and you still have time to turn things around.
Here are my top tips for getting a real transformation in your love life in 2022:
1- Make Your Love Life a Priority
I often talk to women who believe, with every fiber of their being, that their love life is their priority. But when I ask them to tell me what they are doing, it becomes obvious this isn’t exactly the case.
And I get it. It’s very easy to sit around at home and wait for the phone to ring, for a message on a dating app to come through. Or to meet someone in your day-to-day life, as it happens in the movies. You might also be dealing with a busy schedule, and your work, children, family, or friends don’t leave a lot of space in your calendar for your romantic search. Trying to find the time and energy to work on meeting new men and getting a new relationship may feel overwhelming.
However, to make your love life a priority, you need to find the time for it. If you haven’t dated for some time now, the thought of getting back out there could be terrifying. If you have been dating, keeping up the pace can feel exhausting. These are very common reasons many women give up or put their love life on pause.
But the longer you delay making your love life a priority, the longer it will take for you to get the love life you want. You cannot meet someone just by living your day-to-day life and hoping a man will fall into your lap!
2- Think of It Like Any Other Goal
Your romantic goals aren’t necessarily that different from any other goal you’ve had in the past, at least when it comes to achieving it.
Think back at the last bigger goal you’ve had, like getting a job promotion, buying a house, or other. What did you do back then to fulfill your goal? A new job requires resumes and interviews. A promotion requires a bit of hustling and showing the higher-ups you are capable and deserving. A new house needs a bit of sacrifice and planning.
It’s not that different when it comes to finding a man. You need to take valuable steps in order to get the relationship you want. What the steps look like generally depends on you, but it could be anything from building your confidence to joining quality dating services, going to places where you can meet men, and having the courage to speak to them.
And that’s not all: when you find a guy you like, you need to put in extra work to build the relationship, like going on dates, flirting, finding the time to be together, etc. It takes some work, but it’s no different from the other work you’ve put into your life to get what you want.
3- Don’t Give up. Hang in There
I understand the frustration that can build up when your dating life doesn’t yield the results you want. And I perfectly understand if some women see it as a reason to give up.
However, know this: perseverance is the key to success. Your drive and determination can make a huge difference throughout the entire process because they will help you overcome the challenges you may face ahead.
You might be starting to date without even realizing you could see some obstacles down the line. You might not be too happy to learn these obstacles will need more time and effort to overcome. But always think back to your initial goal: isn’t it worth all the effort? Is the prospect of love and happiness not enough to motivate you?
I think it is. And you do too. Just remember that it’s a process, and every baby step counts too. Look at your romantic life like an adventure, a challenge that once you overcome, you get to reap some benefits that will change your entire life.
Your comfort zone won’t help you reach your goals. What you need is to get out of this zone, and stop repeating the same process over and over again. Otherwise, you’ll keep getting the very same results.
Steven Denn said it best: “You can never make the same mistake twice because the second time you make it, it’s not a mistake, it’s a choice.”
Please choose change.
So, are you really serious about finding love? Leave us a comment and tell us how you plan to reach your romantic goals in 2022.