Last year at this time, did you wonder if 2023 was the year you would be finding the love of your life? If you’re still single now, you might be feeling more than a little discouraged.
Of course, we never know what the new year has in store for us, but when we put our best foot forward, we often have better results. Is it time for you to consider getting ready to meet Mr. Right in 2024?
If meeting Mr. Right is on your list of New Year’s Resolutions; you may want to consider the steps required to get there. Taking baby steps toward a big goal like that can help you reach your love life goals.
Here are 7 New Year’s Resolutions that can help you find lasting love this year:
1- Step outside your comfort zone.
Consider some new and different ways to meet men. Have you tried singles parties, dating apps, classes? If you feel uncomfortable with any of those suggestions, it might be uncomfortable for you to meet new people. But that’s the name of the game when you want to know how to meet a great man. You won’t meet a man watching TV in your living room. The more ways you can meet people, the larger your social network and the more likely you are to meet someone new.
Yes, it might feel uncomfortable at first. Anything unfamiliar can be scary. But getting better at getting out there where a new man can find you is an important step toward finding him.
2- Reconsider your type.
We all have a type that we’re attracted to. But it’s possible that you are so focused on whether or not he’s your type that you aren’t noticing whether you’re compatible in other ways. You’ll get more out of the dating process when you look past the exterior to see whether he is considerate, generous, and authentic. It takes a lot more than sexual attraction to make love last. Trying to determine compatibility is a big plus when your goal is lasting love.
Yes, it may feel uncomfortable to get to know a man for who he is as a person, but it’s a big step forward on your journey. Are there items on your “must-haves” list that you can live without?
3- Improve yourself.
Change is hard, so we often delay making the changes we think maybe we should make. But, if your relationship goal is a partner who has his life together, he’ll want that in you, too. How can you put your best foot forward when you don’t feel like you’re at your best?
Take a look at what you want to improve in your life. Break those goals into small, easy baby steps that you can more easily accomplish so you can keep moving toward your ultimate goals. This will make the process seem less overwhelming. Work on the most straightforward, smallest goal first. For example, if you want to say “no” without discomfort, start by asking the waiter to hold the salad dressing or telling your best friend you’re not sure you want to go out tonight. Once you achieve a modest goal, you can move on to the next one, creating a snowball effect and boosting your confidence to tackle bigger, better things. Don’t forget to give yourself credit for any progress you make, no matter how small.
4- Move on from attachments that don’t work.
Believe it or not, being in a relationship, even if it’s casual or off and on, could be making it hard for you to be emotionally available to a new man. It can be hard to let go of someone you have feelings for, but sometimes you need that kind of space for the right relationship to come along. Finding the love of your life involves letting go of the ones who aren’t right for you.
If this step is very difficult, don’t hesitate to get a coach or therapist to talk to about it. If your goal is to move on, you may have some letting go to do.
5- Heal any emotional baggage.
Maybe you have some inner work to do before you are ready to find the right man for you. That’s okay. It’s not unusual for people to have to tease out the past so they are more likely to attract a good man, and fully recognize and appreciate him. When you can let go of past heartbreaks, embrace self-love, and approach relationships with positivity and confidence, it can completely transform your love life.
6- Be kind to yourself.
Being critical of yourself will only make this process of transformation harder. Be willing to accept any mistakes you make as an integral and inevitable part of the learning process. I’m willing to bet that you’ve probably learned many powerful lessons already, even if the process was painful. Please, give yourself some credit for being brave enough to face that pain and keep moving forward toward your goals.
7- Embrace resilience and persistence.
Embrace resilience in your quest for love. Learn from setbacks, refine your approach, and stay determined. Don’t be discouraged by initial rejections; instead, let each experience fuel your commitment to finding a meaningful connection.
As we step into 2024, imagine a better, brighter, more loving 2024. Adopt a mindset of innovation and determination in your journey to find lasting love. Your path to Mr. Right begins with these New Year’s resolutions. Cheers to a year filled with love, growth, and meaningful connections!
You can reach your love life goals!
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