If you’ve been looking for love, chances are you’ve heard some real zingers about dating from the self-help gurus. And if you’re like most women, you’ve probably asked your friends for advice too. In many cases, the information is contradictory. Even when someone wants to help you, they won’t always know what’s best for you when it comes to dating and finding love.
Everyone is different. When it comes to relationships, two peoples’ values, experiences, and emotions are the biggest factors steering the relationship and making it a success or a failure. It’s almost impossible to boil these highly individualized things down into a formulaic piece of advice that is going to work for everyone. What worked for your best friend might not work for you. But unfortunately, the stakes are high when it comes to bad dating advice.
The wrong dating and relationship advice can do a lot of damage to your self-esteem and your chances of finding Mr. Right. If you’re unsure of yourself, you can be tempted to trust the advice of someone who seems to know what they’re talking about. But it’s important to remember that there can be different ways to approach dating and you have to figure out what’s going to work for you, as an individual. That’s what Being Your Own Brand of Sexy is all about.
While it’s okay to solicit advice and listen to different ideas, you need to think about your options and weigh the pros and cons before you act. You’re the one who has to live with the consequences, after all.
But, there are some kinds of dating advice that you should never listen to, no matter what type of expert is giving them. So what are the top five worst examples of dating advice out there?
- The Three-date Rule
This rule tells women that they must decide in three dates whether to have sex with a new man. This rule is toxic to women. You need time to figure out if you can trust a man, and there is no way you can figure that out after just three dates. Also, you risk getting attached after having sex, and this leaves you vulnerable to trusting an untrustworthy man.
Protect your heart. If you tell him you aren’t ready to have sex yet and he disappears, then he wasn’t into you enough to make the relationship work and take it to the next level.
- Lying in your dating profile is okay.
Some people will tell you that it’s all right to lie in your online dating profile because, well, everybody is doing it. Or they might even tell you that it’s reasonable to excuse lying by saying that you have to lie to get people even to give your profile a second look.
Why doesn’t this work? Because if you’re looking for a solid relationship, your honesty and integrity are what your future partner is evaluating. If you begin with a small lie, Mr. Right will be concerned that you will lie about bigger things, too. The truth is, you’ll never get a second chance to make a first impression. Don’t post photos that are ten years old, or when you were ten pounds lighter. When he eventually sees you in person, he will feel tricked or lied to.
- You must feel a spark, or else it isn’t meant to be.
You may have heard that you need instant chemistry or the relationship is doomed to failure. But, couples connect in different ways. People often start as friends, and the spark happens over time with familiarity and bonding. Give the relationship a chance.
- Don’t worry. Someone will come along.
When people say this, they’re usually just trying to be reassuring and supportive. But this advice can feel dismissive of your concerns. Don’t just wait and hope for the best. When it comes to love, it helps to be proactive.
- Just be yourself.
I’m all for being the real you. But that doesn’t mean that it’s okay to be inconsiderate of your date or to get involved with a man who won’t ever make you happy. What works in the dating world is Being Your Own Brand of Sexy.
Being Your Own Brand of Sexy means figuring what works in the dating world for you. When you’re Your Own Brand of Sexy, you’ll know what you want and what types of dating strategies work for you as an individual, and the steps you’ll need to take to achieve your personal relationship goals.
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