Modern dating isn’t working for millions of women today. When the old rules about dating and romantic relationships were thrown out, we didn’t get any consistent, new guidelines to replace them. Confusion reigns. When the women’s movement and the sexual revolution started, old-fashioned dating habits became at best, passe, and at worst, outright ridiculed.
Women didn’t want to wait around for men to call them. Women wanted more options and more power and say over the dating relationship. Today, it’s socially acceptable for women to make the first move, and ask men out on dates. And, everyone is free to avoid old-fashioned notions of commitment, and casual sex is widely accepted. Although we may think that women have more power in the dating world now, is it really true?
Unfortunately, dating has become much more confusing, and the system is broken. While a lot of the old rules were restrictive and harmful for both men and women, some of them weren’t so bad after all. In fact, bringing back 3 vintage dating rules can help you find and keep a good man. So what are these top 3 old-fashioned dating secrets?
- Protect Your Heart
In the good old days, women could take their time to figure out if a man was trustworthy. Taking this slow was the rule, not the exception like it is today. In the modern dating world, women feel pressured to sleep with a guy thanks to the toxic and widely accepted Three Date Rule. The Three Date Rule pressures women into having sex with a man before they’ve had adequate time to figure out if he is genuinely trustworthy and compatible with her. The Three Date Rule is hardly empowering for women. Women make a rushed decision that isn’t in their best interest. This rule makes it far too easy for women to get involved with narcissistic men, emotionally unavailable men, commitment-phobic men, or worse.
- Expect Top Treatment
Many men have gotten so used to women chasing them that they know they don’t have to put much effort into dating or the relationship. And why should they? Women today call men, they ask them out, they text them all the time, and they have casual sex without getting the commitment from the man that they really want. Women do what they think is “normal” rather than making their priority the way the man treats them. So what’s the bottom line? If you don’t expect respect and top treatment from men, you won’t get it.
- Let Him Lead
Many women today think it gives them the power to ask men out. They don’t want to wait around and wonder if a man is interested. The problem is, asking men out often obscures the answer to the ultimate dating questions: Is he really into you, or not?
When you ask him out, it’s incredibly hard to find the answer to this question. It confuses the issue. You have to be clever at weeding out the guys who aren’t that into you when you’re the one who does the pursuing.
How often does he ask you out? What kind of dates does he plan? How often do you hear from him in between dates?
If he’s only contacting you ever two weeks, he’s not as interested as the guy you hear from every few days. If you’re the one who’s asking him out and initiating text conversations, how do you know when or even if he’s missing you? You don’t.
You’ll have way more power in the world of dating when you use a few traditional approaches that protect you and make it easy for you to weed out the men who aren’t that into you. Bucking the current dating trends can make your love life a lot more likely to lead to where you want it to go.
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