Have you ever had that sinking feeling when you felt a man pull away from you?
All of a sudden, he’s not texting as often or making plans with you. He might text you back if you reach out to him, but the affection and the attention are not the same.
You can feel he’s becoming distant. Maybe he even ghosted you and simply disappeared into thin air. And, you can’t seem to understand why that happened. There you were thinking that everything was going really well between you two and he just pulled away like that. Understandably, you feel confused and helpless. What went wrong?
Here’s why men pull away and what you can do about it.
Reason Why Men Pull Away #1: He’s Emotionally Unavailable
When a man is emotionally unavailable, his pattern is to run away from relationships. You need to understand that the issue is not with you and there was nothing you could do to change his behavior. Once he gets what he wants, he is unable to sustain the relationship. If he told you he didn’t want a relationship, but you ignored his warning and jumped into a relationship with him, then you may want to address why you ignored the red flags.
Maybe his pattern was not that obvious, but that is one of the best reasons to take your time and get to know a man before you get invested emotionally or physically. Protect your heart and don’t get invested until there are clear signs that he wants a serious relationship with you and can sustain one.
Reason Why Men Pull Away #2: He’s Busy
Whether his focus has moved to work, school, or family commitments, he is not spending as much energy on you and your relationship. It’s perfectly natural for a man to have other priorities besides you in his life, and balancing them can be challenging sometimes. As long as you feel like he isn’t avoiding your relationship and he is still making you a priority, this might be the natural flow in your relationship. It may not be possible to have the same level of romance and attention when he has a big work project or someone in his family is ill.
If his reasons are legitimate and you are in a committed relationship, you don’t want to panic if he pulls away or demands more time when he’s overwhelmed. You want to support him and give him some space. At some point, you may be busy and need space too. Having some space in a relationship can be very healthy, and you don’t have to be afraid of it.
Reason Why Men Pull Away #3: You Pursue
When you are telling him how much you like him and pushing the relationship forward, you can lower your value in his eyes. He may wonder why you are so into him and wonder if you are desperate or needy. When you let him lead the relationship, you have the power to say “yes” or “no” to his requests. When you slow down and pace the relationship, you are more likely to create a dynamic where he is pursuing you. This is not about manipulating him, it’s about creating a healthy long-term relationship. It takes time to get to know a man and to discover whether your relationship has a future.
Don’t let your emotions get the best of you when a man pulls away. Be conscious and deliberate in how you react. Overreacting and venting is not the best approach when a man pulls away from you.
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