7 Tricks to Act More Confident (Even If You’re Not)

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A 2011 survey about how confident managers feel in their profession found that half of the female respondents reported self-doubt about their job performance. On the other hand, fewer than a third of the male respondents said the same thing.

Despite the tremendous strides women have made, this lack of female confidence is increasingly well documented. Women generally underestimate their abilities, from taking tests to going for promotions. It often holds us back from getting what we want.

The reasons behind this “confidence gap” range from upbringing to biology. One contributing factor has to do with the fact that women are taught to be people-pleasers. Because of that, we are generally less confident than men so we are more vulnerable to pressure from other people. That makes it even harder for us when we get frequent societal messages that confidence is not OK.

Sure, “high maintenance” might mean demanding and needy, but we can just as easily be labeled that because we have high standards. And the term “bitch” is used when women act like men and are more ambitious or aggressive than someone thinks we should be. How dare we not be nice and quiet?

So if you lack confidence, you come by it honestly. But, it doesn’t have to hold you back. Acting more confidently can lead you to feeling more confident.

Here are 7 tricks to act more confident, even if you are not:

Act More Confident Trick #1:  Have Good Posture and Body Language

Women tend to cross their arms. When we do this, we can automatically come off as uneasy, insecure, or shy. Body language can affect how you feel about yourself.

Also, how you stand and sit can affect the clarity of your voice. Hold your head up high. Stand with your feet apart and your knees relaxed. Keep your chest out and shoulders back, whether you are sitting or standing. Relax your shoulders and arms.

Act More Confident Trick #2: Make Eye Contact

Eye contact helps you make a connection with another person. When you look down, the tone and volume of your voice drops. Lack of eye contact can make you come off as submissive and not believable. Making eye contact can help you to feel more confident.

Act More Confident Trick #3: Avoid Unnecessary Apologies

Of course, there are times when you should apologize, but women often apologize when we simply have something to say or a question to ask. Instead of “Sorry to bother you,” just say, “Excuse me.”

Act More Confident Trick #4: Don’t Minimize Your Opinion

You don’t need to add the following phrases that women commonly use: “This is just my opinion.” “I’m still working on this.” “I’m not sure.”  “For what it’s worth.” “This may be way off.” “I’m just thinking out loud here.”

You don’t need to undermine yourself. Just say what you have to say without these phrases.

Act More Confident Trick #5: Don’t Turn a Statement into a Question

When you let your voice creep up into a question at the end of the sentence, it can make you sound unsure of yourself. It’s as if you are asking for reassurance. When you keep your tone of voice even, you sound more confident.

Act More Confident Trick #6: Practice

When you are nervous about a difficult conversation or trying to change a habit, you might benefit from practicing. You might consider recording yourself to see how you express yourself. Then, you can analyze the recordings to see if you want to make some changes.

Act More Confident Trick #7: Be Authentic

When you acknowledge who you are with your strengths and weaknesses, you are accepting yourself. Authenticity keeps us moving forward despite any momentary insecurity we might feel. Not only does it help us to feel more confident, but others also see us as more self-assured.

Your Next Success Steps:

If you need work on any of these areas, pick one at a time and try to be more aware of what you are doing or saying. That way, you can work on changing those habits and start acting more confident.

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