If you’re feeling down about being single, you might be having some negative thoughts about yourself. It might feel like your love life is never going to turn around, but don’t despair!
I bet you’re making a lot more progress in your love life than you realize, which means you’re getting closer to what you want!
Next time you have a negative thought about yourself or your love life, look a little deeper and see if you can find any progress hidden beneath the surface of that thought. For example:
- I’m tired of being single. Wallowing in sadness about being single isn’t healthy. But, being tired of being single can be great motivation to help you make important changes that can ultimately lead to finding Mr. Right. If you are really sick of ordering take out food for one, you may be more motivated to research and learn dating strategies that can help you be more successful with men. Or, you may find the courage to step outside of your comfort zone so that you can get out there and meet men, whether you decide to sign up for a class, take your friend up on her offer to set you up, or sign up for online dating. So, if you’re feeling tired of being single, I bet you’re also feeling motivated to change!
- I have so much to learn. Realizing that you have a lot to learn when it comes to men, dating, and relationships can be overwhelming. For some, it can even be paralyzing. But here is the trick to turning this thought around: realizing that you need help is a huge step forward! If you know that you’re making mistakes with men, you have the power to fix those mistakes. So, just by admitting that you need help, you’ve already made a ton of progress.
- Another breakup! I’ll never find the right guy. It’s really disappointing when you’re dating someone and realize that he isn’t the right guy for you. When that happens, the cycle of meeting men and breaking up can feel never ending. But every time you break up with a guy, you get better at figuring out what you want in a relationship. Maybe you broke up with your last boyfriend because he wasn’t making you a priority, which made you realize that you want to be with a man who will put time and effort into your relationship. Knowing what you want in a man and a relationship is an enormous step towards getting what you want!
- He’s a jerk. It’s also disappointing to realize that the guy you’re on a date with is not a nice guy. Maybe he’s being rude to the waitress, or he’s blatantly flirting with other women in front of you. Despite how upsetting this is, recognizing that you don’t want to date men like this means that you feel like you deserve to be treated well, which you do!
See how much progress you’ve already made? Congratulate yourself!
Focusing on your growth can remind you that your love life is far from hopeless.
Another great way to find hope in your love life is to brush up on your dating skills. That’s why I wrote my new ebook, What to Say to Men on a Date: Be Your Own Brand of Sexy.
This ebook is a guide to help you answer tricky questions from men in a way that works for you. Some questions guys ask may seem easy to answer, but in actuality they can lead to miscommunication, or give the wrong impression. These questions are trickier than they look! It includes many sample responses for each question, ranging from serious to playful, so that you can pick the perfect one for you. All the replies are designed to get you what you want. You’ll also learn what to say to men who are upset, unreasonable, or who aren’t treating you well.
Once you know what to say to men and how to answer their questions, you’ll start feeling more hopeful and having more success with men.
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