Have you noticed that beautiful women often struggle with their love lives too? Although we’re told that we should be sexy and beautiful to attract a good man, there’s much more to it than that. Of course, how you look matters, but in the grand scheme of things, other qualities are much more important. Why spend a lot of time and money trying to improve your appearance if beauty improvements don’t move the needle when it comes to attracting and keeping the right man?
Having beauty treatments can be fun for some of us, while changing your mindset and having the discipline to alter your behavior can be difficult. But, if you’re having any trouble attracting men, it’s definitely worth considering the more difficult path.
These are the critical basics that you need to know that will help you attract a man like a magnet:
1. Have fun.
When you approach dating as a fun activity and way to meet new people, you’re lot more fun as a date. When you’re obviously looking for Mr. Right, you can come off as desperate or needy and the date will not be as light-hearted. The last thing you want to do is grill him about his last relationship and his plans for the future as though he was being interviewed for a job. How can he enjoy himself on such a high-pressure date?
2. Be busy so you take it slow.
When you first start the process of meeting and dating a man, it is very important for you to pace the relationship. When you’re genuinely busy with your life, this happens naturally. You have other plans and he’ll have to find times when you are available to see him. Too many women are afraid to discourage a man by making him wait. They fear he’ll look for another woman. Of course, it’s true that some men will disappear from your life if you slow things down, but if you do it effectively, the right man for you won’t be dissuaded by having to wait. In fact, he’ll start showing powerful signs of male attraction because he’ll be worried that you’re dating someone else. The men who aren’t that into you or who don’t want commitment may figure they will do better elsewhere, but they are not Mr. Right. When men narrow the dating pool for you in this way, it becomes clearer who your best prospects are.
When you take things slow, you have much more time to find out if you’re right for each other and to build a stronger emotional connection. Why rush into something when you may not be sure if he’s completely right for you yet? This is true whether we’re talking about committing to exclusivity, getting sexually involved, moving in together, or getting engaged. Making sure it’s right for you takes time.
3. Appreciate what he does for you.
Are you truly appreciative of the nice things he does for you? So many women today are uncomfortable with a man offering to pay on their date. They obviously bristle, thinking they’re independent women who make their own money. Are you fighting his desire to give to you? If he offers you his jacket when you’re cold, do you reject his offer or appreciate the sentiment? Can you accept a compliment?
Some people think of this as being feminine and receiving his masculine energy. Our culture has been encouraging women to be more assertive and “masculine,” but men miss femininity in women. Here’s the crucial part: when a man is trying to make you happy and you reject his offer, he may think he can’t make you happy. Why would he ask you out again if he thinks he won’t be able to make you happy?
Be sure to say, “thank you” or “That’s sweet.” Or “I really appreciate that.” It’s important for us to encourage good men to do nice things for us. Many men are starved of appreciation by women who reject their lovely offers of opening their doors or trying to do other nice things. They don’t deserve to be rebuffed for trying to be good men. Plus, women who appreciate what a man does for them can be a magnet for men.
4. Don’t complain.
Even though your boss just made your day impossible at work, it’s time to relax and have a good time. He’ll wonder if you’re always unhappy if you gripe about work on your date. Instead, transform your mindset to the fun and flirty person you can be, and watch the sparks fly.
5. Be the best version of you.
Women are often raised to be “nice,” and to please other people. Having the best intentions, you probably want to show that new man how nice and well-meaning you are. When you are in a relationship, you may tend to be a giver. That often means it can be very hard for you to say “no” and set boundaries. But when it’s all about him and you don’t infuse yourself and your needs into your dates, how can he know the real you? And if he doesn’t know the real you, how can he possibly fall in love with you?
Don’t want him to ask you out on Thursday for Friday night? Can you say “no?” When you can’t say “no” to what you don’t want, you will probably feel taken for granted or taken advantage of. Women often do not realize how the simple act of saying “no” can begin to create powerful attraction with the right man.
Even flirting requires you to be able to say “no’ sometimes. If flirting is difficult for you, you might want to explore whether people-pleasing is one of the reasons why.
Just like a magnet effortlessly pulls steel, you have the power to draw Mr. Right toward you in a way that’s simply irresistible. Remember that the journey to lasting love is an exciting adventure, not a race. The magnetic force that brings you and Mr. Right together is an undeniable cosmic dance. Please share your thoughts. How are you going to infuse your life with the magnetic energy that attracts your ideal partner? Your comments, insights, and experiences will undoubtedly inspire others on this beautiful path to love.
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