When I talk to women about their dating lives, one of the most common questions I am asked is how they can meet a nice man. Whether it’s because they aren’t meeting any men at work or their friends don’t know anyone to fix them up with, the final question is always the same:
Where are all the good guys?
Even though we should know better, many women seem to think that they might magically meet a man while doing their typical daily routine that usually ends by watching TV at home alone. Unfortunately, this isn’t a very effective strategy for meeting anyone. But what about online dating?
Especially if you cannot seem to find a guy through your normal social scene, checking out your online options may be the best way to find a good match. I always suggest online dating as a good way to meet men, but many women are still reluctant to try it. Of course it has its drawbacks, but online dating has many benefits to consider as well. To help you understand all of your options for meeting men, we’ll discuss the best ways to approach digital dating in a short blog series over the next few weeks.
So what’s stopping you from trying it?
Why You Should Give Online Dating a Chance
Online dating is the second most popular way to meet someone. Even more, the stigma that used to surround online dating is no longer a problem. In fact, 5% of committed or married couples have met online. If even after giving online dating a decent chance you don’t meet Mr. Right on the web, it’s still a very good way to practice your dating skills and figure out what you’re looking for in a man. It’s got a quick turn around time too – you could set up a profile today and be talking to potential dates in no time! If you really want to develop new dating skills and find a nice man, maybe the important question is:
Why aren’t you willing to try a different approach to dating?
If just thinking about chatting someone up online makes you feel nervous, you may want to pause and ask yourself a few other questions first. Are you nervous because you are afraid of meeting someone? Are you still licking your wounds from a past relationship? Might you be afraid of rejection?
Unfortunately, there’s no avoiding rejection in the dating world. Trying to escape these kinds of inevitable struggles can prevent you from experiencing the joy of a healthy relationship. Maybe it’s better to face your fears and find a way to overcome them than to avoid the pain of rejection by limiting your options at any cost. And don’t worry, there are specific ways that you can do online dating so that you protect your heart and your time.
Digital Dating Can Make a Difference in Your Love Life – Online and Offline
If you’ve ever struggled with dating in general, then learning some new strategies for meeting men online may be just what you need to find the guy you’ve been looking for. The more you learn to be confident in yourself and to expect the sort of top treatment you deserve from men – that is, to be your own Brand of Sexy – the easier it will be to figure out what is the best way for you to personally approach online dating and meeting new men.
If you are still hesitant, you may want to look at it this way: thinking about how a dating strategy might work with a new man is great, but it’s not the same as trying it out on a real, live man. Online dating can be your practice for your more preferred dating method. Think about it – if you never practice using your new mindset with anyone, you really can’t tell if you can pull it off or if it works well for you.
Let’s say, for example, you want to be able to say “no” to answering personal questions from men when you don’t know them very well, something that has always been hard for you. It’s easy to come to this decision in your mind, but when he’s sitting in front of you expecting an answer, it becomes a lot harder to stick to your guns or even remember the phrase you practiced for that situation. But when you’ve practiced for this with a few guys, it can quickly become second nature. You’ll know the words that feel most comfortable for you.
How can you meet some new men and expand your dating pool as soon as today? Through online dating.
P.S. And do not hesitate to contact me with any questions or comments you have about online dating. I’ll answer them personally in an upcoming video!