Happy New Year! 2018 is now behind us. Although I hope you’ve seen progress in your dating relationships, today’s post is going to cover how to start the new year best and reach your love life goals in 2019. Let’s make this year the year for true love!
Last week, we talked about how to have the best mindset for the upcoming year, and how to look forward to reaching your goals rather than expecting the same old, same old.
So, where do you begin to make those changes? It all starts with setting your goals. A little bit of planning can go a long way to helping you get into the right mindset, and take the right actions to find dating success. But, maybe you’re thinking something along these lines:
“But Dr. Susan, I’ve had the same goal of getting into a solid relationship for the last few years. But nothing has changed!”
Not being able to find a good relationship when you long for romance and companionship can be a painful experience. But there are a few steps you can take to change your circumstances. It’s possible that part of your problem is the way in which you’re setting your goals.
First of all, it’s great that you know what you want – a romantic, long-term relationship. A lot of people flounder around for years on the dating scene because they have no clue what their big goal is.
However, you might need to work on several smaller issues before you can accomplish the dream. Those short-term goals can be your stepping stones to something more significant that you desire, in this case, a long-term relationship with a good man.
For example, are you meeting enough available men to get dating practice? Sometimes, dating can be a numbers game, and having more choices can get you closer to accomplishing your ultimate goal.
Do you have a habit of rushing into relationships, missing obvious red flags, only to experience the inevitable heartbreak?
Do you recognize, and appreciate good men when you find them? Or do you reject the good guys because they aren’t able to meet every item on your wish list? Human beings aren’t commodities.
When you clarify the issues that are standing in your way to reaching your goal, it becomes easier to work on them, which will get you closer to your relationship aspirations.
Ideally, the goals you set for 2019 will be attainable, but they will also be challenging. Please don’t set yourself up for failure by picking a target you can’t reach because you didn’t work through the obstacles that have been standing in your way. That will be discouraging and hurt your confidence. But, working through difficult things, and triumphing over them will boost your self-esteem in the coming year.
Setting goals means making a plan to act on them. Planning and action are crucial for goals that are challenging and require a long-term commitment. Start with the easiest stepping stone. Once you accomplish it, it will give you the confidence and momentum you need to continue to the next level.
But goal-setting doesn’t end in January! When you keep your goals in mind all year long, you can continue to evaluate what you need to work on so you can stay on track. 80% of people don’t keep their new year’s resolutions for more than six weeks. Don’t let that be you.
If you need help sticking to your relationship goals this year, How to Be Your Own Brand of Sexy in 5 Simple Steps is an online course that is going to launch at that dangerous, six-week period after New Years. At that time, your resolution might be at its weakest point.
The course will enable you to find the real, genuine, authentic you in dating who knows what she wants and how to get it. The course modules will release over a period of several weeks, so you won’t get overloaded with information and will be able to stay focused on your goals throughout the year.
How to Be Your Own Brand of Sexy in 5 Simple Steps will help you further develop your intuition in dating. Your intuition will lead you to a healthy, fulfilling relationship if you know how to listen to your inner voice. And when a man knows the real you, he can develop strong, loving feelings toward your authentic self.
Do you struggle with dating confidence? Or how to flirt, or how to get respect from men that you deserve? Maybe you struggle with knowing if a man is really into you or not. The course will address a lot of these common, romance pitfalls so you can find the relationship that’s right for you.
Ready to find a healthy, compatible partner in 2019? Sign up for the course waiting list here. Once you complete the course, you’ll know exactly how to identify Mr. Right and build the strong relationship you want. When you sign up, you’ll know the minute the course goes live.
What’s holding you back from achieving your relationship goals? What do you hope to accomplish in 2019? Let us know in the comments!