You’ve noticed that something isn’t working in your love life. Maybe you have started thinking about how your own behavior might be contributing to your problems. After being on the fence for awhile, you might have even decided to make a big change in your own behavior to try to better your love life. Now is the time to actually make the change.
But where do you begin?
By keeping in mind the reasoning behind your decision to change and the determination you gathered in wanting to change, you can begin the process of creating the love life you have always wanted. In the 5 step process of change we have been discussing over the last three weeks, taking action is nearing the end at Step 4.
You have the power to change your love life and the types of guys you are meeting. Here’s how:
Embrace the Change – How to Take Action
At this point, you already have an idea of what you would like to change and at least a general plan of how you will approach solving the problem. Taking action means implementing that plan and transforming that desire into a real movement forward. There are several ways you can do this, but most people begin by sharing their plan for change with others. Consider these options for helping you put your plan into action:
1. Go public.
Telling friends and family about your decision to change can help cement the commitment you made to yourself. Loved ones can give you validation for the plan you have in mind. You can also gain a sense of accountability when you know others are expecting you to follow through on your word. Ideally, it can help you stay determined to change when others are watching and encouraging you. On the other hand, if they are hoping that you will fail, you might be motivated by wanting to prove them wrong.
2. Get help.
Making a lasting change can be extremely difficult when you’re alone. Asking for help is a great way to get support and let others know what you are trying to do. Many people ask for help from others, sometimes through counseling or therapy, an online course, or a support group. Sometimes, seeing a personal coach or reading self-help books can help too. Getting help is not a sign of weakness – it’s a sign of strength to know that you need help and to get the help you need to succeed.
3. See results.
With a good plan, you will start to see success toward your goals. It will never be as fast as you’d like, so patience is key. You’ll start to feel some hope of getting what you want and maybe even some pride in yourself for getting this far. Your confidence will get better and you’ll begin to feel even more determined to make the changes necessary to reach your goals. Keep having faith in yourself and sticking to your plan and goals – you’re almost there!
Go with the Flow – Revising Your Plan
You’ve already come a long way at this point, but that doesn’t mean you’ve figured it all out yet. Your plan may not be perfect, but that’s okay. It might require you to make some tweaks along the way. Maybe you need more help from others than you realized, or you have found more difficulty than you expected dealing with the obstacles in your path. Whatever the case, taking the time to reflect on your action plan every now and and adjust it accordingly is important to stay in sync with what’s really happening in your life and mind.
This process is all about getting you to a healthier, happier place. Be proud of yourself for the work you are doing and believe that you can see the process to its end. All of us in the Be Your Own Brand of Sexy community know you can do this.
Next week we will talk about the last step in the process of change and sum up what we’ve discussed so far. Are you interested in a step-by-step guide to your own unique path in your journey of change? You can sign up for my soon-to-be released short course: How to Become Your Own Brand of Sexy in 5 Simple Steps to have the entire process laid out for you in an easy-to-follow format.