Modern dating involves kissing a lot of frogs. However, unlike the fairytale, the frog usually doesn’t turn into a prince.
Here’s the truth.
Most women attract a lot of men, but most of them won’t be your Mr. Right. Your job is to figure out who to weed out and who to encourage so that you can find the right partner.
And, that can be a difficult job. That’s why you need to be kind to yourself.
When you tell yourself, “I’m not attracting the right men,” be careful not to bring a lot of negativity about yourself to this difficult process. Instead, try to be honest about what you are doing that isn’t working so that you can make the changes you need to succeed.
Modern dating doesn’t have to be very complicated. Try to be kind to yourself, honest with yourself, and true to yourself.
Here are the 5 main reasons why you aren’t meeting Mr. Right:
Reason You Don’t Attract the Right Men #1: You’re Insecure
Everyone who eventually met and married their Mr. Right had some insecurities. They probably wanted to lose weight or thought that they weren’t as beautiful or successful as someone they were looking up to.
We have an epidemic of people feeling bad about themselves because of our unhealthy culture’s emphasis on beauty, success, and wealth.
None of us will ever be able to live up to unrealistic and unattainable ideals. That’s OK. Don’t let your insecurities stop you from getting out there and meeting men. The right one will love you the way you are.
Reason You Don’t Attract the Right Men #2: You Don’t Put Your Best Foot Forward
Do the best you can with what you have to work with. If you’re doing online dating, make sure your pictures and profile are appealing and accurately represent you. Be a good date by trying to enjoy his company and finding the good in him, even if you aren’t a match.
Reason You Don’t Attract the Right Men #3: You Quickly Reject Good, Solid Men
Try to look below the surface. The last thing you want to do is to reject a perfectly nice man who doesn’t meet some arbitrary requirements. When your focus is to learn enough about a man to decide if there is any potential or not, you can start making better dating decisions that will lead you to Mr. Right.
Give him a chance to impress you. It’s good for you to get used to a man treating you well. Why are you in such a hurry to reject him? You might be more attracted to him over time because he treats you so well.
Reason You Don’t Attract the Right Men #4: You Don’t Appreciate Good Men and How They Treat You
Raise the bar. You want to get used to men who want to make you happy. They are mature, stable, and treat you well. When these are the men you are used to dating, it becomes super obvious when you meet a man who isn’t up to your standards.
When a man does something nice for you, find a way to communicate your appreciation. Why would he want to continue to treat you like a treasure if you don’t appreciate it? See how to compliment a man for ideas.
Reason You Don’t Attract the Right Men #5: You Aren’t Comfortable with the Real You
How can a man fall in love with you when he doesn’t even know you? If you’re reluctant to open up or share your opinions, then he may not be able to get a read on whether you two are a match. If it’s hard for you to stand up to a man, then something very important to him might be missing in your interaction. If this is your issue, you may need to read my book Be Your Own Brand of Sexy to start or continue this process.
You can attract the right man. You just might have a few more steps to address.
Which one of these steps do you want to work on?
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