Answer me this: are you starting over, or looking for a partner? Because if you are, Kim K’s love life holds many useful lessons many women should pay attention to!
Choosing a partner makes a huge difference in your life. It has a say in your financial security, emotional wellbeing, and even the level of happiness you can look forward to. Is the man you’re dating, and maybe thinking about taking your relationship to the next level, going to make you feel supported? Or will you feel like you always need to take care of him? Will you two be working together on your goals?
While I don’t know Kim Kardashian personally, from the vast amount of information she shares about her life, we know she made a few mistakes in her love life. And from these mistakes, we can identify a few really important lessons that most women need to know when they are dating.
Below, let’s go through 5 of the most important love lessons from Kim Kardashian:
Kim Kardashian Love Lesson #1: Don’t Marry When Taking Drugs
Kim has admitted she was high on ecstasy when she eloped at 19 and married producer Damon Thomas, who was 10 years her senior. The relationship was not designed to last, and not necessarily because of the age difference. Kim has said that Thomas was controlling, not wanting her to even go to the mall alone or with friends, and also accused him of being physically abusive, which he denies.
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Marrying a guy that is not right for you is, of course, much easier to do when drugs are impairing your judgment. Marriage should be an informed decision, meaning you should fully understand what you are getting into, and what marriage will mean for you and your relationship. Drugs don’t really let you do all of this informed thinking, however.
Drugs impair your judgment, which means it becomes much easier for you to make a decision that is less than ideal.
Kim Kardashian Love Lesson #2: Don’t Choose an Abusive Husband
Controlling behaviors, emotional abuse, gaslighting – these are all telling signs that your partner could become physically abusive down the line. These individuals might not start showcasing their abusive behavior right away, which is why it’s incredibly important to continue to review your dynamic. If things change and you don’t feel loved, appreciated, or worse start to fear your partner, it’s best to cut ties with him right away.
You can learn more about abusive behaviors and seek help should you need it here.
Kim Kardashian Love Lesson #3: Don’t Rush into Major Life Decisions about Love
Kim’s second marriage to NBA player Kris Humphries was greatly publicized, but there is one detail about that not many people discuss: why she even got married. In her own words, she said “I’m 30 years old, I better get this together. I better get married.”
This is why, after only dating for 5 months, they tied the knot. Then, 72 days later, she filed for divorce, claiming she “knew on the honeymoon it wasn’t going to work out.”
So, what happened here? In my opinion, she did not know her husband long enough for the marriage to last. It’s always better to take the time to really get to know the man you are dating before making major life decisions like marrying. It’s not just that the man might be hiding secrets or that he will be abusive – but perhaps the chemistry between you is only temporary. You need to give a relationship time to truly figure out if it’s meant to be.
Kim Kardashian Love Lesson #4: Don’t Choose a Man Who Isn’t Ready for Marriage
Kris Humphries has publicly said “Look, I should have known what I was getting into. I was definitely naive about how much my life was going to change.”
Humphries didn’t really seem like the man ready to settle down once you learn about this quote. A man who wants to get married knows and understands what this commitment means. If he had known how big a life decision marriage is, perhaps things would have turned out differently.
Perhaps the couple would have talked things out and realized that they were not ready for this commitment before walking down the aisle.
Kim Kardashian Love Lesson #5: Be Careful about Rebound Relationships
After her breakup with Humphries, Kim Kardashian was feeling low and ended up being invited by Kanye to go to Paris. She said, “I swear from the moment I landed and was there, I fell madly in love with him.” Then, after 6 years of marriage, she filed for divorce in 2021.
Rebound relationships are tricky because you are never in the right headspace when on the rebound. For Kim, she apparently “knew her marriage was over a long time ago” but waited to file for divorce because of Kanye’s mental health struggles. Who knows how she would have evaluated this relationship from the get-go, had it not started on the rebound from her divorce.
We all make mistakes in love and thankfully some people are willing to share them with the world. Learn from Kim’s mistakes and take your time to get to know a man before committing to the relationship. Also read from Is Romance Really Outdated? Why It’s Important to Celebrate Love.
What do you think of these Kim K love lessons? Let me know your thoughts in the comments!