Women often make the mistake of thinking that if they just improve their looks or their confidence, they’ll become successful with dating. Sometimes, they believe that those are the only criteria that matter when it comes to finding Mr. Right. Women who struggle with dating often believe all the hype around ‘they can’t love someone until they love themselves.’
When you think looks, confidence, and loving yourself are the only set of keys to success in love and dating, you’re making the process harder on yourself. There is a better, more effective way to approach love and relationships. Those three factors aren’t even requirements to finding love.
Sure, loving yourself is a great idea. But, you don’t have to do it first before you can love another. Confidence can help you with everything that you do. But again, it’s not the most crucial factor in finding love.
And yes, looks do matter a lot in our culture. But again, they aren’t a requirement to dating success either. 91% of all women in our society aren’t happy with the way they look. However, you’ve probably noticed that nowhere near 91% of women are single.
The most important factor to finding success in love and dating doesn’t require good looks, loving yourself first, or confidence.
Learning how to date with dignity is the key to finding Mr. Right.
Dating with dignity will improve your confidence, your satisfaction with the way you look, and enable you to start loving yourself if that’s something you struggle with.
What does dating with dignity even mean? It means that you expect your dates to treat you well, and with respect.
How does dating with dignity look when you put it into practice?
It means saying ‘no’ to a second date with a man who is disrespectful of your feelings on the first date. It means training yourself to look for different qualities in men besides how they look or how much money they make. Dating with dignity means leaving the self-criticism at the door, so you can empower yourself and become more successful in all areas of your life.
If you’re concerned that maybe this sounds like being entitled to ‘top treatment,’ that’s not it. Dating with dignity doesn’t mean he only takes you to expensive places, wining, dining, and ‘wowing’ you. Finding Mr. Right means dating men who care about making you happy. He’ll probably tell you that he wants to make you happy. But don’t just listen to what he says. Look at what he does. If a man says he wants to make you happy but continually disappoints you by doing the opposite, his words, and his promises, are empty.
In essence, dating with dignity means being selective about who you date. You have to take things slow so you can give yourself enough time to be discerning. Time will help you uncover whether a man is truly into you and does want to make you happy, for real.
It’s never dignified for a woman to chase a man. Let him chase you. It’s okay to turn down dates that you know aren’t good for you, even if it comes at the cost of feeling lonely. Date men who have good character, not how they look on paper.
Making the switch to dating with dignity may involve some changes on your part. You may need to find other places to meet high-quality men. It’s possible that you’ll have to look at other areas of your life and make improvements there, too. A good man will enhance your life and happiness, but he can’t solve your problems. When you’re leading a fulfilling life outside of dating, it makes it much easier to be selective about who you say ‘yes’ or ‘no’ to. Leading a full life will help dispel any feelings of desperation or neediness. A happy life will give you a clear head, enabling you to focus on finding and discerning the right man for you.
One of the major benefits of dating with dignity is men will start to treat you better. When you begin to experience this first-hand, you’ll internalize the knowledge that you do deserve better from your dating partners. Don’t you think this is an effective way to improve your confidence?
Dating with dignity comes back to owning yourself, and knowing what you want and what dating strategies work for you as an individual. Being Your Own Brand of Sexy is all about finding your dignity and improving your confidence with dating. It will help you discern if whether or not a man has good character and is treating you with the respect and care you deserve.
Sometimes, it’s not easy to know what dating strategies are going to work for your values, lifestyle, and goals. We all need a little direction from time to time. Dating and relationships are important to finding fulfillment as a human being, but it’s not something that you’re taught in school. Most people don’t even learn how to do this from their parents.
Be Your Own Brand of Sexy in 5 Simple Steps is a course that’s designed to teach you these skills. Sign up now for the waiting list if you want to get the most out of dating success and find your Mr. Right. You’ll be the first to know when the course goes live.
Do you think you’re dating with dignity? What have you had to change to make that happen? Please leave a comment and let us know what dating strategies you’re committing to change your life.