Holidays often mean gatherings with family, friends and coworkers… and maybe even the dreaded, “Why are you still single?” For many women, that question can be frustrating and even a painful reminder of your singlehood. If that’s the case, have you considered a new way to look at being single? At least you’re free of the emotional pressures of a bad relationship. You might also feel lonely or sad in a relationship that isn’t meeting your needs and is going nowhere. Being single gives you the opportunity to reevaluate yourself and your needs to ensure that when the next big relationship comes along, it’s the right one for you and is one on your terms.
How can you get a relationship that works for you when you aren’t clear about what you want or how to get it? Your time being single can help you to learn how to be your own Brand of Sexy. That means doing what works best for you. It’s not about pleasing your family, friends or anyone else. It’s about getting the relationship of your dreams, one that meets your wants. In my award-winning book, Be Your Own Brand of Sexy: The New Sexual Revolution for Women, you’ll learn about the 12-Piece Dating Toolbox to help you get back in the game by identifying what you want in a relationship, and figuring out how to get it.
Often we’re so focused on pleasing others (or getting nagging relatives off your back) that we don’t learn what’s right for us and end up in relationships that don’t work out very well. Being single and ready for the right relationship is a worthy goal and you’re taking a giant first step toward getting what you want by reading this post right now!
Single women today have more options than ever before, and that can be daunting. By taking your time to discover your own Brand of Sexy, you’re figuring out what you want, what works for you individually, and what strategies to use to achieve your relationship goals—whatever they may be.
Dating can be challenging. Dry spells, rejection, and disappointment are the name of the game. Sometimes the process becomes so discouraging that we forget the good parts about being single. In a relationship, you commit a lot more time and energy to your partner, leaving you with less time for yourself. A silver lining of being single is that it’s an opportunity to grow, to discover yourself, to gain new hobbies, to make new friends, to travel. It’s a chance to do the things you’ve always wanted to do. It can be hard to change your perspective, but when you’re exploring the world as a single woman you’re more likely to meet interesting men—and you’re in a better state of mind when you do.
When you’re single and focusing on yourself, it’s a great time to develop all of these wonderful skills and have new, exciting experiences. You have the space to do so. This self-acceptance and self-awareness will bring you that much closer to your goal: the relationship you want.
Being single means you have the future open to find the right man for you. So if asked, “Why are you still single?”, know it’s because you’ve joined the revolution in finding your own Brand of Sexy and are that much closer to your goal of having the man and relationship of your dreams!
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