Have you ever heard the phrase, “insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result?” It’s easy to get stuck in a rut, especially when it comes to dating and relationships. Some people will date the same type of man or woman who they aren’t compatible with, despite the repeated heartbreak. If you want to travel new roads in dating and find Mr. Right, you’ll have to change your perspective on relationships and the dating process.
Traveling New Roads for a New Perspective
When you want your life to go in a different direction, it can be hard to realize that you might need to take a very different approach. You’ll want to change your dating habits from what you’ve done in the past. Even when you feel like you’re ready to make this big change, you might need to do some smaller things before you can reach your ultimate goal for romance.
After all, the way you did things until now got you your past results, which you probably weren’t happy with. If you’re looking for something more, and something better, it’s going to require some work on your part. Maybe you need a very different perspective, some new skills, and a roadmap to steer you in the direction of the results you want. Changing ourselves in this way is just part of the process of readjusting, so we can reach our goals.
How might you need to change your perspective?
Here are some common ways single women can benefit from that kind of change:
- Keep your goal in mind.
So, a solid relationship or marriage is your ultimate goal. One major, common mistake women with this goal is thinking that any man with a pulse will do. When you quickly decide that a man is right for you when you hardly know him, it’s a recipe for disaster.
Rushing to a decision like this is more of a short-term approach. It doesn’t give you a chance to think about what’s best for you long-term. It sets you up for failure. When you aren’t selective enough about your dating partners, less worthy men will pick up on it.
He doesn’t have to put his best foot forward when you aren’t very selective about a man. He might start taking you for granted or losing interest quickly. Worse, you could get attached to a toxic man, all because you didn’t take the time to get to know him before you got involved. This is probably the simplest adjustment to make when it comes to changing your perspectives on dating.
- Appreciate nice men.
Unfortunately, our culture emphasizes beauty and wealth. As a result, women make the common mistake of prioritizing how much money a man has, rather than appreciating how nice he is or how he treats people.
But when you want a good relationship, you must be able to choose a good man. If you pick someone self-centered or immature, you’re bound to have some relationship issues. A fat bank account won’t make up for toxic personality. When your priority is recognizing and appreciating nice men, you’re much more likely to end up in a relationship with one.
- Meet people.
You might need a better perspective on your social life. Whether it’s expanding your social circle, trying online dating, or both, you aren’t going to get any dating practice in your living room watching TV. Part of dating is a numbers game. When you cast a wider net by making yourself more available, you’ll have a higher chance of meeting Mr. Right.
- Be a good date.
When you’re used to being a good date, whether your partner is a candidate for love or not, your dating skills can help you to manage the entire dating process. Why ruin your chances with a man when you’re on the fence about him? It’s always better to have a date two so you can try to figure out whether or not you’re interested.
There’s a lot to learn and gain from being your best self on a date. You can refine your conversational skills and learn about something new. Dating with a positive perspective is more than just not sitting at home and hiding from the world. It can make you more knowledgeable about yourself, your goals for a partner, and how to be at ease with a variety of different personalities so you can find the one for you.
- Improve your relationship skills.
Do you need to work on certain skills (or lack thereof) that may have caused you problems in your past relationships? Do you have trouble communicating, or is it hard to be sensitive to your partner’s feelings or needs? Don’t you want to be ready for Mr. Right when he arrives by improving these skills now? This is one change in perspective you can make that will pay off greatly in the end when you finally do meet someone right for you. Finding Mr. Right is one thing. You want to keep him, too.
What perspectives do you need to change so you’ll be ready for your future relationship with Mr. Right? Leave us a comment and let us know.