In the last 2 blog posts, I talked about how to make dating fun by remembering that you’re the prize and you always have a choice.
Now let’s talk about being yourself!
1. Forget about how you should act. Many women think that they should do certain things like answer every question that he asks—even when these things don’t make them happy. If you focus more on what you want and less on what you think you’re supposed to do and say, you’re more likely to feel comfortable and have a good time. If he asks a question and you don’t want to talk about it, like “Have you ever been married?” for example, you might have a lot more fun if you change the subject (“Not yet…Did you see My Best Friend’s Wedding? That karaoke scene was hilarious. Have you ever done that?”) or give him a vague or playful response (“I was too smart to get married”) than if you get into a conversation that you feel uncomfortable about. Plus, any decent guy is going to want to get to know the real you, not the woman you think you’re supposed to be. Want more ideas about how to handle the tough questions men ask on dates? My new ebook, What to Say to Men on a Date, has lots of great answers.
2. Be prepared. Dating can be nerve-racking, and sometimes we fumble with our words or say the wrong thing simply because our nerves get the best of us. Thinking about how you want to answer common dating questions ahead of time, and maybe even practicing alone or with a friend, can help you relax. When you’re relaxed, you’re much more likely to be yourself and have fun. As a result, your date might have fun, too! It might also help to try and think about why you are so nervous. Have you been rejected recently? Are you feeling insecure? Afraid of being alone? You might want to work on identifying why you’re nervous so you can address it. This may not be easy, but it can often be very helpful.
3. Be your own Brand of Sexy. Being your own Brand of Sexy is all about being yourself. That means figuring out what you want, what works for you individually, and what strategies to use to achieve your relationship goals—whatever those goals may be. Sometimes we pay so much attention to what our friends tell us to do or what we see on TV or in movies that we ignore what’s best for us. If you approach a date like this, chances are it won’t be very much fun for you. Instead, try to make decisions based on what works for you. Need some help figuring out how to be yourself on a date? Grab a FREE excerpt of my multi-award-winning book Be Your Own Brand of Sexy: A New Sexual Revolution for Women.
What to Say to Men on a Date can also help you be yourself with men by giving you practical advice about what to say on dates for women of all different Brands of Sexy. What to Say to Men on a Date shows you EXACTLY what to say when asked common dating questions that sound simple, but are really loaded. This book gives you a variety of responses to choose from, ranging from serious to playful, so that you can pick the perfect one for you. All the replies are designed to get you what you want. It includes basic dating questions that most single women regularly encounter, as well as advice on how to handle men who are upset, unreasonable, or who aren’t treating you well.
When you have fun on dates, you’re far more likely to find love. There’s nothing more attractive than a confident, happy, playful woman!
Start getting what you want from men. Be your own Brand of Sexy.