The movie Guardians of the Galaxy has an important lesson for women about how to protect your heart with men and why you should do it. It may seem strange to you that five years after this movie was released, I’m writing an article about it. But there’s a very good reason why I haven’t seen the film for five years since its release: I avoid violent movies like the plague.
I’m concerned that the gratuitous violence in them may be contributing to the terrible shootings that have become increasingly common in our society. But sometimes you have to see movies, despite your reluctance. Even the ones we wouldn’t usually enjoy all have lessons in them that can teach us and help us grow in wisdom and understanding. Despite the violence, there is a lesson in Guardians of the Galaxy that might help your dating life – the lesson on protecting your heart.
*The rest of the article contains spoilers
The primary romantic couple in Guardians of the Galaxy is Peter Quill, aka Star-Lord, who is an intergalactic outlaw, and Gamora. Gamora is a deadly assassin sent to steal the Power Stone from Peter Quill, culminating in a violent exchange. But after things calm down, they finally get some private time together.
Star-Lord lays on the charm and pulls out his Walkman for some music. He tries to get Gamora to listen to his Earth music and dance with him. Gamora doesn’t trust him since he’s an outlaw and she is probably afraid of men after the trauma she has experienced. She pushes him away, calling him “Power Sorcerer.” Star-Lord has had his share of trauma too. Yet it seems both of them are very attracted to each other despite all these issues. Star-Lord doesn’t appear to be even the slightest bit put off by Gamora’s rejection of him. They stay friends, but he wants more.
It’s merely good judgment for Gamora to be cautious of an attractive, playboy outlaw. Star-Lord is portrayed as a bit of a ladies’ man. He said one woman tried to rip out his thorax; another stabbed him when he left her in the morning. Maybe “power sorcery” is a good phrase to describe a process where a man tries to seduce a woman after they’ve both almost killed each other. I don’t know how their relationship will proceed, but the moral of the story is this: if he’s into you, he’ll stick around.
It makes a lot of sense to take your time getting to know a man in order to figure out if you can trust him, and whether the two of you are a good match. In Gamora’s case, they became good friends, while she tried to decide whether she wanted to get closer. Gamora’s reluctance forces Star-Lord to determine if she’s right for him and puts the decision about the future of their relationship in his hands.
How does Gamora’s situation help you with your dating life?
Today we’re taught that we should be assertive and go after a date with any man we’re interested in. Many women have discovered the hard way that pursuing men often doesn’t work. The reason why is that it’s much more important to know if the man is into you. But that takes time. Without giving him the space to decide whether he really likes you, he may just go along with whatever you want.
Why is this a bad thing? Well, it often leads to a situation where you’re in a relationship with him, but his heart is not into it. When this happens, the man won’t commit, and he might even keep seeing other women. But when you protect your heart, you take your time to find out where you both genuinely stand. Being patient and protecting your heart when dating lets you slow down and decide if he is who you really want to be with. It also allows you to see what type of relationship he’s after. Ideally, protecting your heart will result in you being with a man who is really into you and wants the same kind of relationship that you do.
Is it hard to protect your heart? Yes, definitely. When you’re tired of being single and find someone you find attractive, it can be easy to move too fast and fail to protect your heart.
Is this something you want to improve with your dating life? Leave us a comment and tells what you want to change, and how you will approach it. If you’ve managed to achieve this, what happened?