Life can be downright bleak sometimes. No matter how good you had it until now or how many hardships you’ve endured so far, we all have moments when we feel like giving up.
Maybe your relationship isn’t all sunshine and daisies. Or maybe you’re single and feeling overwhelmed while looking for a partner and you may start wondering why you bother to keep trying. There are moments when you make a mistake that has negative consequences or you lose someone you love. Struggling with financial problems or health challenges can become overwhelming too.
So, I get it if sometimes you feel like you don’t want to get out of bed. Giving up may seem easier, but it does not strengthen you. In the long run, you’re always better off trying to hang in there, put one foot in front of the other and keep moving forward. When you don’t give up on your dreams, you become stronger through adversity. And, that can help you realize that you can handle the tough times that may come in the future.
If you’re reading this article, you probably want to know how you can gain the strength that will help you handle future challenges in love or other areas of your life.
Here are the 5 critical tips to strengthen yourself when you feel like giving up:
Strengthen Yourself Tip #1: Be Kind to Yourself
Many of us are our worst critics, which just makes matters worse when you are already having a hard time. No one is perfect and we all make mistakes. So, it’s better to accept them and learn lessons from them rather than to obsess over every little error and berate yourself.
Strengthen Yourself Tip #2: Get the Support You Need
We live in an individualistic culture and feel that we have to overcome every hardship by ourselves. But, that’s usually detrimental to our wellbeing and goals. Asking for help is not a sign of weakness, but a sign of strength. When you need help, ask for it.
Most of us will need some support and guidance at one point. If you are making mistakes and having a hard time figuring out your next move, being all alone isn’t the best approach. A different perspective from someone with the right experience can be extremely valuable.
Strengthen Yourself Tip #3: Take Action
Rather than become a couch potato, do something to help yourself feel better. Even if it is just going outside and taking a walk, you’re moving away from a negative place to a more positive one. Even if you cannot do much to change your situation right now, you can start with something small.
You have the choice of whether you do something that will make you feel better or something that will make you feel worse. Believe it or not, most people feel better when they accomplish something, even if it is just a small step. In fact, it might be better to take small steps so you do succeed rather than have unrealistic expectations when you’re struggling already and set yourself up for failure.
Strengthen Yourself Tip #4: Appreciate Your Baby Steps
The key to feeling good about the actions you take requires you to give yourself credit. “I’m so glad I took that walk today. I feel a little better.” After all, when you are suffering, it is harder to do what might have come easy to you before. When you criticize yourself for struggling, you tell yourself that your struggle is not important. Instead, acknowledge that you are having a hard time right now, but you are taking steps to make yourself feel better and stronger.
Strengthen Yourself Tip #5: Look Forward to a More Positive Future
When you know that your situation is temporary, it becomes a little easier to hang in there. Of course, the tricky part is believing that your struggles are temporary. This is where talking to someone with a different perspective can make a big difference. Grieving gets easier with time. Learning from your mistakes turns them into something beneficial. Struggling makes you human and helps you to better appreciate and empathize with the problems of others.
Your Next Step:
If it’s hard to use these tips, then you might want to read one of these articles to get a different perspective on your situation: The Best Gift You Can Give? Make Yourself a Top Priority
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