Have you ever heard the old saying, “When the student is ready, the teacher will arrive?” People debate the origins of this wise saying, but it’s a helpful lesson on your path to finding love.
How do you know when you are ready?
The dating world is full of opportunities, but the truth is that a lot of people are not quite ready to take them. They sign up for dating sites and never meet anyone. Or they delay signing up because they are waiting until they lose 10 pounds or gain more confidence. They refuse to go out with anyone who does not completely meet their checklist, even if that person might teach them something.
Do any of these sound familiar?
“He must be 6 feet tall and have blue eyes.”
“All the good ones are taken”
“Nice men are boring.”
“I’m with someone, but it won’t work in the long run.”
“Men don’t find me attractive.”
“I’m too busy to date.”
“Men aren’t interested in women with kids.”
Blinded by these excuses you keep giving yourself, you may not even realize that your teacher might be right in front of you. You are not that motivated or interested in changing your life. You might not notice other paths available to you until you are ready for real personal growth. When you want to explore that level of self-development, you are willing to do it even if it is painful to face parts of it.
Whether your “teacher” is the love of your life or just someone with good advice, here are the 3 signs that you are ready for your love and dating teacher to arrive:
Ready for Love Sign #1: You Can Admit You May Have Made Mistakes
You are willing to face the fact that your approach to love and dating might have been flawed in some ways and you need to course correct. You are eager to learn, ready for growth, and aware of the work that’s ahead of you.
On the other hand, when you think you always know more than your teacher does, you don’t learn much.
Ready for Love Sign #2: You Are Open and Curious to Find Another Point of View
If you keep an open mind, you will be ready to receive the wisdom your teacher has to share with you. But, for that to happen, you need to be willing to challenge your existing beliefs and consider a new perspective. Only that way you can get fresh insights into the world and gain valuable understanding of yourself.
Be prepared as shedding your old ideas is going to be hard. It’s what you’ve known for so long and the values that have been guiding you all this time. Admitting that they were flawed and challenging them will require work.
Ready for Love Sign #3: You’ve Had It
You want change in your life more than you want the status quo. Whether you are frozen in place and can’t move forward to take action or you’re just repeating old patterns and sick of the same old same old, you must want change and be willing to do what it takes to create a life that you love. Change can be scary and unfamiliar, so unless you really want to change, it may not seem worth the effort.
Bottom Line: If you are on the verge of a major life change, listen to your heart and take the next step.
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