Category - Sex and Dating

Nothing highlights the problems of today’s dating culture quite like reality TV shows like The Bachelor. In it, a large group of pretty women compete for a hunky man. He doesn’t have to do anything to charm them, or prove he’s interesting or even a nice guy. The women are the ones who do all …

Ever feel like you say the wrong things to men? Effective communication is one of the most valuable skills to have in a relationship. Poor communication styles can cause fights, frustration, and hurt feelings. But if you express yourself well, you can let him know your needs without putting him on the defensive or getting …

A microwave romance is one that progresses at lightning speed. It also typically explodes in your face. We’ve all seen a TV show or movie about love at first sight. A man and woman hit it off, the scene cuts to the two rolling between the sheets, and their romance unfolds to a lifetime of …

In January, did you tell yourself your New Year’s resolution was to find a good relationship? If you’re disappointed with your love life so far this year, maybe it’s time to shake things up in terms of how you’re approaching dating and relationships. Are you making the same mistakes with men over and over again? …

There’s all kinds of bad, contradictory advice out there about what to do when dating. How do you sort through it all? Start by recognizing that a huge part of the confusion around dating is due to the cultural pressures. We face to look sexy and be sexual, telling us that dating is all about …

Maybe you’ve been in the dating pool for a while or you’re just dipping a toe back in after a relationship has come to an end. You might be wondering how to stop having unsuccessful dates and find The Guy you’ve always wanted. To help you discover the best secret to successful dating, let’s start …

(an excerpt from the book Be Your Own Brand of Sexy: A New Sexual Revolution for Women) Let’s look at your instincts for a minute. There’s a big difference between animal instincts, the sexual feelings we might have for a guy, and our protective instincts—that little warning bell that goes off in your head that …

Many women believe that casual sex empowers them. They don’t want to be passive. They don’t like waiting for a man to make the first move. They want to take charge. But casual sex isn’t empowering for everyone. In fact, it doesn’t work for many women. In a culture that pressures you to be sexy …

In this modern world of online dating sites like Tinder and the “hook up” culture, the message seems to be clear: Women are expected to say “yes” to sex, and right away. But is that in your best interest? Or are you feeling pressured to act against your instincts? Does the thought of rushing into …

Many women today don’t get the commitment that they want from men. When I give talks on this subject, a man in the audience often asks, “But isn’t the problem just communication? Wouldn’t a woman’s problems be solved if she just spoke up about what she wants?” This is partly true, but it’s not the …