If you’ve been to a wedding as a single women and you took my advice not to bring a date (check out the blog post “Should You Bring a Date if You’re Single?”), you might have met a guy there. Maybe the two of you even exchanged numbers.
So what do you do now that you’re home, the festivities are over, and you want to turn that phone number sitting in your purse into a date?
1. Let him make the first move! If you exchanged numbers, it may be tempting to pick up the phone and call or text him to set up a date. But many men prefer to do the chasing, and most women like to feel desired. If you let him pursue you, you’re more likely to feel desired and he will probably enjoy the challenge. That’s why it’s such an effective recipe for romance when men court women. Plus, if you sit back and wait to see if he’s going to put a little effort into trying to set up a date with you, you’ll get to find out just how into you he is. If he’s really interested, he won’t mind putting in the effort. If you don’t hear from him, then he wasn’t interested enough to make the first move. It may feel scary to risk missing out on the date, but do you really want to be with a guy who isn’t interested in you enough to pick up the phone and call you? You deserve to be with someone who knows what a catch you are, and who won’t mind putting in the effort to win you over.
2. When he calls, remember that you don’t have to answer all his questions. If he calls you, he might ask you all kinds of questions that you don’t necessarily want to answer directly, like “What did you do for the rest of the weekend after the wedding?” “What are you doing this weekend?” or “What do you want to do on our date?” These questions may seem harmless, but they can be tricky to answer, especially if you don’t feel comfortable telling a guy you only just met that you spent the rest of the weekend lounging in your pajamas and watching Netflix. Here’s the secret that many women don’t realize—there are ways to respond to his questions that preserve your privacy without shutting down the conversation. In fact, being a bit mysterious may even be alluring to him. My upcoming new ebook, What to Say to Men on a Date: Be Your Own Brand of Sexy, will walk you through how to respond to all these questions—and more—in a way that works for you. You can pre-order it now.
3. When he calls you, try taking a playful approach. Being playful is a great way to handle many of the tricky questions that you may not want to answer. If you aren’t sure how to pull off being playful, pre-order my new ebook, What to Say to Men on a Date: Be Your Own Brand of Sexy. And remember to smile when you talk to him. Even if you’re only on the phone, he’ll hear your smile in your voice!
If you didn’t meet a guy at the wedding, don’t feel discouraged or beat yourself up about it. There will be plenty more opportunities for you to meet men and to find love. In the meantime, brush up on your dating skills so that when you do meet a great guy, you are ready. My new ebook, What to Say to Men on a Date: Be Your Own Brand of Sexy, is full of tips on how to date successfully. It shows you EXACTLY what to say when dealing with men, including how to answer basic dating questions that most single women regularly encounter, as well as advice on how to handle men who are upset, unreasonable, or who aren’t treating you well. This ebook gives you a variety of responses to choose from, ranging from serious to playful, so that you can pick the perfect one for you. Pre-order it today!
It’s important to answer these tricky questions in a way that you are comfortable with and fits your personality. Being your own Brand of Sexy means doing what works best for you. Click here to take a quiz to find out if you are being your own Brand of Sexy!
In case you missed them, check out the last three blogs, “Single? How to Turn Around the Pre-Wedding Blues,” “Should I Bring a Date to a Wedding?”, and “Why Are You Still Single? 10 Answers to the Dreaded Wedding Question.”
Do you prefer to make the first move with men or do you wait for them to call you? Why? I’d love to hear from you. Please share your experiences in the comments below and on Facebook and Twitter.
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