Category - Sex and Dating

In January, did you tell yourself your New Year’s resolution was to find a good relationship? If you’re disappointed with your love life so far this year, maybe it’s time to shake things up in terms of how you’re approaching dating and relationships. Are you making the same mistakes with men over and over again? …

There’s all kinds of bad, contradictory advice out there about what to do when dating. How do you sort through it all? Start by recognizing that a huge part of the confusion around dating is due to the cultural pressures. We face to look sexy and be sexual, telling us that dating is all about …

Maybe you’ve been in the dating pool for a while or you’re just dipping a toe back in after a relationship has come to an end. You might be wondering how to stop having unsuccessful dates and find The Guy you’ve always wanted. To help you discover the best secret to successful dating, let’s start …

(an excerpt from the book Be Your Own Brand of Sexy: A New Sexual Revolution for Women) Let’s look at your instincts for a minute. There’s a big difference between animal instincts, the sexual feelings we might have for a guy, and our protective instincts—that little warning bell that goes off in your head that …

Most single women have an idea of what type of man they want to be with. Many women even make The List – you know the one, the list that says things like “must be at least 6 ft tall with brown hair and blue eyes, must have a stable job, must like kids, must …

Many women believe that casual sex empowers them. They don’t want to be passive. They don’t like waiting for a man to make the first move. They want to take charge. But casual sex isn’t empowering for everyone. In fact, it doesn’t work for many women. In a culture that pressures you to be sexy …

In this modern world of online dating sites like Tinder and the “hook up” culture, the message seems to be clear: Women are expected to say “yes” to sex, and right away. But is that in your best interest? Or are you feeling pressured to act against your instincts? Does the thought of rushing into …

Many women today don’t get the commitment that they want from men. When I give talks on this subject, a man in the audience often asks, “But isn’t the problem just communication? Wouldn’t a woman’s problems be solved if she just spoke up about what she wants?” This is partly true, but it’s not the …

Are you truly free? With so many of us trying so hard to be sex objects, is that really sexual freedom? Maybe you’d like to believe that you’re free, but there are hidden forces at work that may be influencing you without your full knowledge.  Since we all want to be “normal,” in many situations …

Have you ever wondered whether a guy was into you? Did you later discover that you’d been gambling with your heart? Why is this pattern so familiar today? It’s not your fault. Our culture puts so much pressure on us to be sexy and sexual that many of us believe that’s the key to getting …