Category - Dating Dangers

Readers and patients often ask me how they can begin to expect respect in a relationship and finally have a relationship on their own terms – the Be Your Own Brand of Sexy way. We’ve talked before about why respect is essential in every relationship and how to know whether you’re asking too much from …

What’s your strategy when you’re looking for a relationship? Yes, that’s right – strategy. Because finding love will be incredibly difficult if you just go with the “I’m attracted to this guy, therefore let’s start dating” principle. You need to have a very specific approach to the process of finding a man. If you just …

If you’ve been single for a while and are really struggling to find the right man, you’ve likely said this to yourself a couple of times: “Maybe I’m just being too picky.” Or perhaps some friends have said that to you when you went out together and confessed that the guy you were seeing isn’t …

How do most women make their decisions about love? In many cases, they use a checklist or series of requirements a guy has to fulfill.   Tall? Check.   Handsome? Double check  Funny, smart, successful? Check, check, check.   While it’s reasonable and healthy to have standards, a lot of women make the mistake of writing off a good prospect because …

It’s human nature to want to be challenged, but it doesn’t always work out when that challenge comes from your love life. A little bit of mystery and uncertainty can spark the fires of love and attraction, and too much can translate to unrequited love. But how can you stay on the right side of …

(an excerpt from the book Be Your Own Brand of Sexy: A New Sexual Revolution for Women) Let’s look at your instincts for a minute. There’s a big difference between animal instincts, the sexual feelings we might have for a guy, and our protective instincts—that little warning bell that goes off in your head that …

Many women believe that casual sex empowers them. They don’t want to be passive. They don’t like waiting for a man to make the first move. They want to take charge. But casual sex isn’t empowering for everyone. In fact, it doesn’t work for many women. In a culture that pressures you to be sexy …

If you’ve ever had any kind of a relationship with a narcissist, you know it’s all about him. For that simple reason, they don’t make good boyfriends or husbands. Your feelings never matter and he won’t be good at compromise. If you’ve ever fallen for one, it’s not your fault. Our culture applauds, rewards, and …

In this modern world of online dating sites like Tinder and the “hook up” culture, the message seems to be clear: Women are expected to say “yes” to sex, and right away. But is that in your best interest? Or are you feeling pressured to act against your instincts? Does the thought of rushing into …

Make no mistake — dating today is like jumping into the deep end with eyes closed, hoping you will find your way to the surface despite not really knowing how to swim. With all the dating “rules” changing faster than anyone can keep track, understanding how to interpret certain dating behavior has become an art. …