Category - Sex and Dating

If you’re attending a wedding as a single woman, you might already be feeling down or frustrated about your own love life. If you are wondering when it will be your turn to say “I do,” you probably aren’t looking forward to being grilled about why you didn’t bring a date to the event or …

If you’ve been to a wedding as a single women and you took my advice not to bring a date (check out the blog post “Should You Bring a Date if You’re Single?”), you might have met a guy there. Maybe the two of you even exchanged numbers. So what do you do now that you’re …

Nothing highlights the problems of today’s dating culture quite like reality TV shows like The Bachelor. In it, a large group of pretty women compete for a hunky man. He doesn’t have to do anything to charm them, or prove he’s interesting or even a nice guy. The women are the ones who do all …

A microwave romance is one that progresses at lightning speed. It also typically explodes in your face. We’ve all seen a TV show or movie about love at first sight. A man and woman hit it off, the scene cuts to the two rolling between the sheets, and their romance unfolds to a lifetime of …

Maybe you’ve been in the dating pool for a while or you’re just dipping a toe back in after a relationship has come to an end. You might be wondering how to stop having unsuccessful dates and find The Guy you’ve always wanted. To help you discover the best secret to successful dating, let’s start …

(an excerpt from the book Be Your Own Brand of Sexy: A New Sexual Revolution for Women) Let’s look at your instincts for a minute. There’s a big difference between animal instincts, the sexual feelings we might have for a guy, and our protective instincts—that little warning bell that goes off in your head that …

Many women believe that casual sex empowers them. They don’t want to be passive. They don’t like waiting for a man to make the first move. They want to take charge. But casual sex isn’t empowering for everyone. In fact, it doesn’t work for many women. In a culture that pressures you to be sexy …

In this modern world of online dating sites like Tinder and the “hook up” culture, the message seems to be clear: Women are expected to say “yes” to sex, and right away. But is that in your best interest? Or are you feeling pressured to act against your instincts? Does the thought of rushing into …

Many women today don’t get the commitment that they want from men. When I give talks on this subject, a man in the audience often asks, “But isn’t the problem just communication? Wouldn’t a woman’s problems be solved if she just spoke up about what she wants?” This is partly true, but it’s not the …

Have you ever wondered whether a guy was into you? Did you later discover that you’d been gambling with your heart? Why is this pattern so familiar today? It’s not your fault. Our culture puts so much pressure on us to be sexy and sexual that many of us believe that’s the key to getting …